No Harm Done: Things Can Change

Self-harm is the intentional act of causing damage to your body, either through self-injury or poisoning. It can often be caused as a reaction to distressing or difficult feelings. Self-harm can include, but is not limited to, self-cutting, burning, taking an overdose and hitting or bruising. Self-harm is common in young people: at least 10% report having self-harmed.

There are lots of reasons why someone may choose to self-harm. It is different for each person. Some young people feel the need to self-harm to combat feelings of being overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, numb or disconnected from friends, family and society. Others say something in their environment makes them feel vulnerable. Everybody’s experience is different.

No, absolutely not. Self-harm is a lot more common than you may think, and it can affect anyone. You are not alone and help is available to you.

Most young people find that it helps to be able to talk to someone they trust about what they’re going through. This could be a friend, family member, teacher, therapist or someone else: what’s important is that it’s someone you feel comfortable being open with.

Parents, carers, family, friends, teachers, school nurses, doctors and youth nurses: anyone can support you, as long as they care about you.

Teachers have a duty of care towards the young people in their classrooms and schools. Teachers also want the best for you and to ensure you get the help and support you need; sometimes that means telling someone else in the school or at home to protect you.

Things can change

Nothing has to stay the same for you as it is right now. If there are things in your life that you wish would change, they can. Don’t give up.

There are choices and positive changes that will make life better, you just have to look for them and be open to doing things differently. If one thing doesn’t work, that doesn’t mean it’s not worth trying again. It just means there are other options that you haven’t yet explored.

You have the right to help

When you are self-harming it can be a really scary time. It’s an ‘in-the-moment’ coping mechanism, one that might make a small difference when you’re doing it but can very quickly lead to upsetting feelings and emotions. It can also leave you feeling incredibly lonely and like you can’t tell anyone.

Remember: you deserve to get better. This journey begins with speaking to someone and asking for help.

Be kind to yourself

Self-harming can be a vicious cycle: it can make you feel better for a short while but it never makes difficult emotions and harmful ‘noise’ go away. And sometimes, the loudest negative voice that we hear can be our own.

Look after yourself by taking things a day at a time. Make small goals and celebrate little wins. Be gentle and compassionate in how you speak to yourself; always asking: would I talk to a friend like this?

Spend time with others

Time spent in the company of people who care about you - especially friends and family - can make a big impact.

Try and seek out positive distractions and experiences to take your mind off how you are feeling. Look for opportunities to connect with others in a positive and caring environment.

Find someone you trust to talk to

The first step to feeling better is often the moment when you choose to share how you’re feeling with others. There’s a lot of stigma around self-harm, but there shouldn’t be.

Keeping these emotions to yourself, as a secret, won’t help: talking about self-harm is much more positive than actually doing it.

There are many different ways to get help, places you can go and safe spaces in which you can feel comfortable. Ask for help, speak with professionals and listen to voices that you trust. Here are some recommended resources that you may find helpful:

YoungMinds: youngminds.org.uk

The Royal College of Psychiatrists: Self-harm information and support

Childline: childline.org.uk 0800 1111(free 24hr)

Self HarmUK: selfharm.co.uk

Self injury Support: selfinjurysupport.org.uk
Helpline: 0808 800 8088
(Tue & Wed 7-10pm, Thur 3-6pm & 7-10pm)
Text: 0780 047 2908 (Sun - Fri 7-9pm)

Harmless: harmless.org.uk
Email: info@harmless.org.uk

National Self Harm Network Forum: nshn.co.uk

Get Connected: getconnected.org.uk
Freephone: 0808 808 4994 (7 days a week, 1-11pm)

Samaritans: samaritans.org.uk
Helpline (24 hr): 116 123 Email: jo@samaritans.org

Youth Access: youthaccess.org.uk

If you have caused yourself serious bodily harm, or feel like you are going to, call or visit your local Accident and Emergency immediately.

The #NoHarmDone project has been created in partnership with young people and produced by YoungMinds, the Royal College of Psychiatrists and the Charlie Waller Trust.

Thank you to all the young people who generously gave their time and experiences to make ‘No Harm Done’ a reality.

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